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The Simplicity of Idenics
In an arena as vast as
the self-improvement field, it is hard to determine who has the right
answers. It is fair to say that there are lots of "answers". Thousands
of ideas and concepts, many of which are similar but stated
differently, have been put forth for you to choose from. There is,
however, one subject that has never really been addressed or given much
importance. This subject I call "additives".
By
"additive", I simply mean something that is added. The ideas and
concepts that people think themselves to be are additive. The ideas and
concepts at the bottom of personal unwanted conditions are additive. If
people could simply take a look, inspect and "let go" of these
additives they could release themselves from their self-imposed chains.
Most of the time, however, they just keep "adding".
The
primary source of additives for a person is him/her self. The amount of
garbage people can heap on themselves trying to figure out what is
"wrong" with them can be staggering. Our own responses to questions we
ask ourselves, such as, "What's wrong with me?" and "Why do I do
that?", can be a source of continual misery. The great liability of
self-inquiry is creating additives and getting stuck with them.
Unable
to resolve unwanted conditions themselves, people have turned to others
for assistance, and their cry for help has been answered. Ask for this
help and you are deluged with the thousands of methods and systems
promising to propel you to relief or personal freedom. But following
these paths has only led to further misery and frustration for most, as
the answers, concepts and ideas provided to you by others are further
additives.
Even though the additives a person can
accumulate from others can provide a temporary relief, they do not
usually lead to an individual being able to "let go" and thereby
resolve an unwanted condition. It can be argued that temporary relief
is better than the constant pain. However, there is usually a price.
The person gets the "quick fix" but this soon wears off. The individual
still has the unwanted condition but may also be stuck with the
additive. Let me give you some examples of these kinds of additives.
The explanations people are given for their unwanted
conditions are additives. People love explanations. Explanations,
whether correct or incorrect, need only to be bought into to provide
one with temporary relief. For example, Jim goes to a psychic and says,
"I have all these issues in my life, I'm unhappy, tell me why." The
psychic says, "When you go to sleep, aliens are beaming you with
special rays." Jim thinks to himself, "I guess I do sometimes feel
lethargic when I get up in the morning, yeah, that makes sense." And he
may feel better, temporarily. The answer explains things to him. Here's
another example. Jane has a low self-image. She buys a book on "How To
Improve Your Self-Esteem". The author says, "The reason you have low
self-esteem is because of ideas your parents installed in you when you
were young." Jane thinks to herself, "Well, my father did tell me I was
worthless several times, yeah, that makes sense." And she may feel
better for the rest of the day. The next day some situation in life
occurs, and she falls right back into the same old stuck condition of
low self-esteem. But people tend to hold on to these explanations even
if they work only once. She still has the condition, but also has the
explanation: an additive because it adds on to the condition. If you've
ever spoken with someone who has spent years in therapy, you might find
they could sit and talk with you for hours explaining all the reasons
why they have the conditions they do, but they still have the
conditions. What you are listening to are additives.
People
seem to gravitate to, even crave additives. What is at the foundation
of the problem has become desired in the solution. For this reason,
groups selling the most additives, "pretended knowingness", "pie in the
sky", etc., will continue to prosper. People leaving such groups ponder
on how the group could get rich preying on the misery of others. But
such groups wouldn't even be in business if they didn't fulfill some
demand: in this case a demand for answers and solutions.
In
a field overflowing with the selling of additives, I choose to assist
people with as little additive as possible. This is the cornerstone of
the subject of Idenics. Yes, we must have a
technology and mechanics which we use to assist people in the
resolution of their unwanted conditions. And the sole purpose of all
this technology and mechanics is to get the person to take a look. The
mechanics are the "words". The nonjudgemental, nonevaluative,
nonadditive application is the "music". Opinion, suggestion and advice
have no place in the application of Idenics. But
most people pay little attention to this aspect of Idenics
and concentrate only on the mechanics of the subject. This not only
makes it difficult to describe what we do, but also makes it difficult
to train Idenics facilitators. To train a
facilitator to not even have an opinion about the person he/she is
working with, to get him/her able to understand that the full source of
information about a client is that client, is not an easy task. But
this is a necessity if clients are to attain their desired results in a
relatively short amount of time.
People find it
hard to imagine how our clients resolve for themselves, so quickly,
issues that have been bothering them for years and through so many
previously used systems. Here are some observations I have made over
the past ten years with Idenics: People are not as
screwed up as they have believed or others would have had them believe.
They can do this work quite easily in most cases, if we don't get in
their way. What do we mean by "not getting in their way"? Not giving
judgments, evaluations, suggestions, opinions or advice. All these
things are additive and get in a person's way.
In Idenics
we trust our clients, believe our clients and respect their uniqueness
and self-determinism. We put the integrity of what we are doing above
our own desires for expansion and financial success. It's not always an
easy road, but our clients do well, and that's the best pay one can get
in this business.
Whether you come to us for
service or not, I hope that what I've said about additives will be of
some assistance to you. Thank you for listening, and for taking a look.
Sincerely,
Mike Goldstein | |
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